Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Don't Ask, Don't Tell & Marriage

Lt. Col. Victor Fehrenback was just on Rachel Maddow's show. He, and Lt. Dan Choi, are two powerful examples (amongst many others) of the kind of men and women this country needs in its military. The idea that anyone even close to the caliber of these men is dismissed as not good enough or too great a risk just because they are gay is ludicrous at best.

Equality is equality. Not equality but separate. Just plain equality. Equality in service and equality in marriage.

I just hope President Obama is being crazy like a fox. If he pushes dumping DADT or DOMA, what would the reaction be? One can imagine wailing and gnashing of teeth. But if he does as he has been, keeping a "let's put this on a slightly lower heat" kind of attitude, what happens? One can see the latter happening now. People are coming from both sides of the aisle, even in the military, saying that gay men and women are valuable, do not disrupt their units, serve with distinction and should be allowed to remain in the military and be honest about who they are.

There is also more open discussion of gay marriage. The courageous states that have passed legislation allowing gay marriage are finding that the sky is still there, God hasn't struck them with lightning and the children aren't suddenly turning gay en masse. People in general are seeing that it's not going to destroy traditional marriage after all.

Is the President waiting for the public to have a change in mindset before wading in? Does he want it to be the public's idea before he gives it a gentle nudge in the right (or liberal) direction? Is he a fox on pacifist clothing? I hope so.

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